If you sleep in a bed big enough for two, the bedsheets are often too big for one person to manage easily. The first lover I lived with and I used to have a ritual when we went to the laundromat together. We’d each grab two corners of the sheet, spread it out, and come…
Your children will not be who you think they will be. They will not grow up to be the people you fantasized that they would. They will not like the same things that you like. They will not vote the way that you vote. They will not love the people you think they should love,…
If you don’t love your book, it’s going to suck. What do I mean by love? People write books for all sorts of reasons. Some are self-serving (“This will make me famous!”). Some are mundane (“This will get me tenure.”). And some, of course, are written for love. Without the love, the book is unlikely…
Over the holidays I’ve gotten to spend time with the sweethearts of my two adult children. They are lovely people. The question of how you treat your children’s chosen lovers reveals a lot about yourself and your own prejudices. What is in your rational mind is not always the same as what your habits reveal….
30 years ago a new person came into my life. 23 years ago another. Nearly 20 years ago, another. None of these people became who I imagined them to be. They have surprised me. But all of them have enriched me beyond belief. My family is my touchstone. What I wish for you is not…